So sorry to hear your daughter has struggled so much. Memory problems are common with auditory processing disorder. Also, her appearance that she doesn't apply herself enough may be more a fatigue factor. They estimate kids with this disorder take two to three times the energy to focus and take in information. So their ability to stay attentive is severely taxed -- which is why it is often diagnosed as ADD.

There are things that can be done to help improve auditory processing disorder, but they do not work for every child. In the library on this site there are many articles about therapies and accommodations.

The National Coalition of Auditory Processing Disorders used to have a great directory of audiologists who specialized in screening for CAPD, but it looks like they took it down. I don't know of anybody in your area, but maybe somebody on this board does. You might try calling around to see if they have a regional assessment center. Here in California they call them regional centers. It's where kids go to be assessed for various issues. Calling them they might know of a good audiologist in the area.

Take care,
Bonnie

Thanks to both of you who responded.  I did see that listing for the audiologist but at first glance it doesn't appear that they accept our insurance.  She will still be covered under our plan since she will be a full-time student for a while (hopefully!).  I just get extremely frustrated at the entire situation and don't really have any one to talk to about this.  Parents, most friends, DH, just don't get it.  Daughter wants the help and I just want her to have whatever tools she needs to do the best she can.  It's all I've ever wanted for her...no one is looking for a straight A student here but I just want her to be a confident, capable, young lady.